It’s time to ask yourself some brutal questions. Let’s be honest and stop walking on eggshells. Are you a people pleaser, to a fault? You know. That fake person that does a lot of smiling and pretending, but, is really pissed, deep-down?
This has the noxious aroma of passive-aggressive behavior.
Doing things when you really don’t feel like it or being with people you really don’t enjoy sharing air with. And, then, running your mouth to any poor soul within earshot. You’re really good at hosting pity-parties and complaining about how worn out you are!
You blame others for your misery and choices!
You often worry about what others will say, if you dare say NO to a myriad of social invitations. When did your guts splatter the pavement? It’s nobody’s fault but your own!!
Life is finite. Start treating your time like it’s as valuable as a pink diamond!
Because, it truly is.
I am a reformed people pleaser, but, I fall off the wagon from time to time. LOL. I still love fraternizing and spending time with beloved family and friends. But, I have learned over time to consider how I am feeling FIRST; to treat myself like I matter—not, an afterthought!! I have an aversion to the word, must!
It’s all about self-love and nurturing a healthy mindset. I do what I want to do—-when I choose to.
Here are 3 reasons why saying NO is a beautiful thing and can add a few more years to your life
1. Take back your power and life
Grow the f#@! up!!! Stop being a snowflake. You are not obligated to attend every soiree or outing. Trust me, the world will survive if you don’t show up. You may not be as important as you think you are. It will humble you!
Of course, there are some work related events or family celebrations that you must attend or you’ll have hell to pay. LOL. But, remember. Everything is not a priority. Do things that are meaningful and don’t usher panic attacks, migraines or a intense desire to fabricate a lie at the last minute.
2. It teaches you how small words can have big impact
Yes, respond within a timely manner so you don’t leave folks hanging. I’m not endorsing being rude, hostile or hurtful. Be firm, short and sweet. Don’t ramble on about why you are saying no. We talk too much. And, stop with all the superfluous apologies. They just ignite the guilt flames; and we’re having none of that. ” No, I can’t,” or “No, I am unavailable,” are appropriate remarks.
Yes. It’s easier to decline on the phone or in an email or text. You don’t have to lock eyes with the person you’re ”letting down,” but you still may get attitude and disappointment. Those folks that truly matter, understand. If you’re saying no in person, don’t be shaky in your delivery, be pleasant and keep your arms behind your back so they can’t be twisted. LOL!
3. You deserve to sit on your ass and do absolutely nothing
Let’s face it. Everybody is running ragged multi-tasking; stuck in traffic jams, dealing with nasty co-workers, grinding a living, paying bills, raising children, mending relationships, tending to elderly parents and a laundry list of other grueling responsibilities. It’s easy to forget who you are!
You owe yourself down time without a whole lot of explaining. Saying NO is liberating! Whoever said it’s not okay to be selfish is probably dressed in her pajamas babbling to squirrels in the park. Save yourself!! Save the squirrels!! LOL!